Tips to Manage Sexual Performance Anxiety

Sunday, December 6, 2015

Tips to Manage Sexual Performance Anxiety

Sexual performance anxiety is highly popular, especially among men. There is much pressure in society or at work impacting in sexual situations. Even the first time of love-making or a long time without sexual relationship has a bad impact on men's thought if it is not successful or satisfied. Anxiety over sexual performance also tends to be self-sustaining. It can lead to issues like premature ejaculation or trouble getting aroused, and this contributes to sexual performance anxiety in the future. The following article describes causes and solutions to sexual performance anxiety.

Causes of Sexual Performance Anxiety

Many different kinds of worries can lead to sexual performance anxiety, including:

  • Stress or pressure from work
  • Inexperience
  • Worry that you won't perform well in bed and satisfy your partner
  • Poor body image, including concern over your weight
  • Difficulties in your relationship with your partner
  • Worry that his penis won't 'measure up'
  • Worry about ejaculating prematurely or taking too long to reach orgasm
  • A woman’s anxiety about not being able to have an orgasm or enjoy the sexual experience

Tips to Manage Sexual Performance Anxiety

While it would be great to have some quick solution for sexual performance anxiety, like all forms of anxiety it is a long term process. Everyone can overcome these problems, but it takes work, dedication, and smart decisions. The following represent some important strategies for overcoming this anxiety:

Tell Your Sexual Partner About It

One of the worst things you can do when you have this type of performance anxiety is try to fight it without telling your partner. That will cause your anxiety to get much worse, and you'll pay too much attention to how every movement feels. Strongly consider telling your partner before you make love that you have this anxiety and the feelings it causes. Most likely your partner will understand, and the two of you can work on it together.

Deliver Foreplay

While some men and women struggle receiving foreplay when they have performance anxiety, they can still provide it. A great deal of performance anxiety relates to worries over how much the partner is enjoying the experience. You can reduce some of those worries by being more giving with foreplay, so that even if your sexual performance isn't what you or your partner wanted, your partner will still be satisfied.

Make Love

Ideally, this partner will be someone that you can continue to be intimate with in the long term. Experience - especially with the same person - is a cure for sexual anxiety. That's because experience tells your mind that no matter your abilities, this partner isn't going away. It reduces the fear that your sexual performance is going to hurt your sex life.


Being confident in your body and your energy is also an vital part of managing sexual anxiety. The more you're not thinking about yourself and how you look, the easier it is to engage in sexual activity without stress. Strongly consider picking up exercise if you haven't yet to ensure that you're as confident as possible.

Behavioral Practice

Don't forget about behavioral practice. This is more for men than women, but there are strategies (such as the stop/start masturbation method) that can improve your ability to make love confidently. You can also consider this same type of behavioral practice while making love. You and your partner can discuss strategies, and be open about needs and desires in order to have the best intimate moments possible. 

Finally, you'll absolutely need to control your overall anxiety. Those that have anxiety are far more prone to experiencing anxiety in the bedroom, and no amount of practice is going to take that way. 

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